You Can’t Be A Powerful Woman If You’re Afraid Of Your Pussy
Every time I read these words by the formidable Psalm Isadora I feel a shift, something powerful, feeling I am now part of a movement WAY BIGGER than my own internal dramas and insecurities.
And just by reading this post, you are too!
You are flipping the finger at the 1,000s of years of fear, secrecy and shame around female sexuality.
By educating yourself about how your body and how your sexuality actually work, you are smashing through the damaging cultural BS, that teaches women, you are never good enough.
I am so fucking proud that we are standing up together and screaming ENOUGH!!!
Take a breath and feel into this.
Less than 1% of women step up and take responsibility for their bodies, their pleasure and their own POWER.
This was highlighted in a recent lecture on female sexuality. The speaker asked of the 700+ women in the room, if we lined up all of our vulva’s, just how many women would be able to pick their own out?
There were a few nervous giggles and murmurs, and a scattered show of hands.
The thought processes of the women included;
Hand straight up; “I KNOW AND LOVE MY VULVA! PUSSY POWER!!”
Nervous hand half up; “I do, but will people think that means I’m slutty?”
Hand remained down, nervous giggle; “I do but I don’t want to admit that, what would people think?”
Hand down “I don’t, the thought never crossed my mind – oh God, am I a bad feminist now?”
Hand down “I do. It kind of grosses me out.”
Hand down “I have seen myself. My ex said I looked weird and didn’t want to go down on me, so I think there’s something wrong with me”
When the same question was asked to the penis owners in the room, all hands went up.
Holy shit!
When you feel shame or embarrassment over any part of your body, you are telling yourself, that you are not loveable exactly as you are.
And you wonder why, no matter how much you achieve… the dream career, family, beautiful holidays, incredible friends… there is that sinking feeling of never being quite enough.
Combine this with the cultural expectations of being a woman and I’m amazed we get through the day!!
HOW YOU CAN FLIP THE FINGER:
CHOOSE to learn how your body works.
CHOOSE to connect to yourself before you connect to others.
CHOOSE to notice the deep-rooted, programmes that are playing out, in repeated patterns in your life and learn to re-frame them.
CHOOSE confidence – it is something you learn and practice.
And you can get started today….
GO AND GRAB A HAND MIRROR AND CREATE SOME PRIVACY
It is the first and singularly most important sex education in the world…
MAPPING YOUR VULVA
Gently cup your vulva. Taking three breaths, notice the warmth from your hand and welcome a sense of curiosity.
Lightly touch, massage, or circle each part of your vulva.
Notice what it feels like, what sensations can you feel?
Note, on a scale of plus to minus three, how good these areas feel to touch.
+3 = OMG YES!
0 = Neutral
-3 = Nope, not for me.
You can do this before any arousal, then again after you have experienced arousal or orgasm.
Post arousal, you can feel the engorgement of the delicate tissue, the flush of colours, the sensitisation. Your body is fascinating and beautiful!
ARE YOU READY TO FLIP THE FINGER, DIVE DEEP INTO YOUR SEXUALITY AND CREATE A LIFE FUELLED BY PLEASURE.
Book a call and let’s talk.
CD. x