We Didn’t All Come Here to Be Zen Monks with Zero Triggers

A regulated nervous system isn’t about being calm all the time. That’s just another form of dissociation — freeze mode in disguise.

We didn’t all come here to be zen monks with zero triggers.

This obsession with being nice, inoffensive, compliant, seen but not heard (eye roll) is just another development of “good girl” conditioning.

I’m here for wild, passionate, loud, free laughter — and the depth of joy and love that only the approval of your deepest grief can give you.

That’s a full life.

What a Well-Regulated Nervous System Really Is

It’s not about staying calm at all costs.
It’s about range.

A well-regulated nervous system is like a piano that can play its full spectrum:
🎹 From deep rest (without checking out)…
🎹 To rage, grief, and ecstatic pleasure rolling through your body.

It’s the true meaning of “feel the fear and do it anyway” — only without collapsing into a vegetative heap afterwards.

Some people call this range resilience or a window of tolerance.
I call it simply: feeling alive.

Why Range Matters

Think of your nervous system like a muscle. If it doesn’t move, it gets tight, stiff, and atrophied.

When that happens, life looks like:
⚡ Being triggered by everything.
⚡ Constant anxiety.
⚡ Spilling into rage or tears at the smallest thing.
⚡ Or the opposite: a functional freeze, fawning, or subbing to everyone else.

On a physical level, it’s about how much upregulation (activation) your nervous system can stay present with — and how easily you can downregulate afterwards.

The better question is:
👉 How fluent is your system in energy?

Building Nervous System Fluency

There are plenty of ways to expand, flex, and grow your range.

But the most effective method I’ve ever found?
P*y work.**

Aka reason #8,978,374 to touch your p***y — without chasing orgasm.