CHASING ORGASMS & BURNOUT
I’ve spent years mastering the art of Os. Teaching them, having them with others, by myself, from every different place in my body. Feeling a little bit smug that my body works in the ‘right’ way.
Them teaching women how to do the same…
And you know what, it sells.
O School
Multiple Os
Blended Os
15+ different ways you can come
Toys that get you off in minutes
It sounds good, but it for me, it falls flat.
Like a quick O that felt more like a sneeze…
It’s rooted shitty s*x education or, what we actually received, reproductive education and an iffy interpretation of equality.
If like me, in a Biology lesson a long time ago, you were faced with a cross section of a womb and a p*nis drawn on a chalk board (yes, I am that old), and a slightly awkward teacher…
You were taught about:
Ovaries, fallopian tubes and cervix but missed out the clitoral complex
The pathway of the sperm and egg, but nothing about orgasms.
That a penis engorges and ejaculates into your v*gina, this makes a baby, no mention of your vulva – the entire external organ.
You know, an age and religion appropriate understating of our jiggly bits and baby making.
It both missed out and inferred so much:
Only teaching that a d*ck gets hard, infers that female bodies don’t change when in fact we engorge, our uterus shifts position, we produce three different types of lubrication.
Only talking male ejaculation infers that O are the same thing, when they are separate biological functions.
Missing out that women can only get pregnant 5/6 day each month, instead we pump teenager’s developing bodies with huge amounts of synthetic hormones without understanding the long-term side effects – endometriosis, fibroids, PCOS anyone?
At best this taught us good, acceptable s*x is all about the climax, and because equality, we should both get one.
Or worse, that female arousal and O’s aren’t even a thing.
It’s led to a world where sex is about O’s, pass/fail you have them your great, your partner has performed effectively, your body has performed. You can relax, you’re normal.
It gives you a nice clear goal, and with that a tonne of pressure.
This narrative has guided me to talk about Os for a living – in the world of give people what they are asking for, market research and sell ‘em what they want.
But it has just added to the narrative, that goes against how female bodies operate. It is damaging.
Over the last couple of years, my relationship to orgasms has changed. My practice never chases them, quite the opposite – my intention is relax, expand and hold more of the sensation and energy.
Why? Your relationship with your pussy is the blueprint for your life.
If you are only chasing fast Os, and feel frustrated and like there is something wrong if you struggle, your life will be an echo of this;
Chasing your goals, and only feeling enough if you get there.
This is where masculine/patriarchal conditioning lives in your body.
Goal orientated, pass fail.
If you have a p***y, this will drain the fucking life out of you.
It is called extraction.
It leads to burnout.
Using your energy to get something so you can feel a certain way, get something, manifest something, to fix something
is rooted in you are not enough.
It is deeply ingrained in our culture so much so
It’s how every advertising and marketing company sells you shit you don’t need.
For me and the women I teach, it no longer works.
We have chosen a different path that is not for everyone…
Repatterning our bodies and our lives to generate our energy, to nourish ourselves and feed our lives and the people around us from the overflow.
there is no end to this energy
the mind chatter of not enough is put to one side
there is no burnout
and the repatterning starts with your relationship to your pussy.
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If this lights something up in you, I have opened up 1:1 journeys for women who are ready reorient life to their pussy, and unravel what is no longer true.
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