The 5 Biggest Blocks To A Woman’s Libido
“Caroline, I used to love sex, in fact I was probably a bit promiscuous, but right now my libido seems to have disappeared….”
It happens to the best of us, here’s the top five reasons why, and of course, what to do about it:
YOU’RE STRESSED
Especially in lockdown, no space, too much space, stress and worry about jobs, health, the daily wine intake, boredom and uncertainty - can dial up your libido for some, but for 80-90% of people increased stress kicks you desire out the window.
Learn the difference between stress and stressors and how to complete the stress cycle.
YOU BELIEVE THAT SEX IS LESS IMPORTANT THAN LOVE
Dating guru Matthew Hussey tells us sex is only 20% of what makes an awesome relationship, but if it’s not there it feels like 80%.
Sex isn’t just something to do, it’s the most powerful way to connect, destress, energise and EXPRESS LOVE. Especially for men folks, they have been taught that the only ‘manly ‘way to express love is though sexy time.
YOU’VE LOST RESPECT FOR YOUR MAN
If you’re constantly nagging or criticising, in or out of the bedroom AND especially in front of other people you are literally cutting off your own libido, and his attraction to you
RESPECT and APPRECIATION for him are key to your own orgasms.
YOU’RE HAVING DUTY SEX
When you have sex to simply to please your partner, because it’s your wifely duty or you don’t want him going elsewhere, you are disconnecting from your body and are more likely to experience pain, block orgasms and cut off the delicious endorphins and chemicals that help you feel satisfied and connected.
YOU’RE HAVING THE SAME KINDA SEX OVER AND OVER
Steak is my favourite food in the world.
I can still remember the first time I had reeeeally good steak; 2016 in Cape Town at the grill on the Waterfront. Upstairs at the Grill in Chester is my favourite steak house in the UK, they literally have a meat Sommelier. I can talk to my butcher for hours. I studied Gordan Ramsey’s’ tekkers for cooking the best ribeye myself.
I LUUURVEE steak.
Yet if I had steak every single meal I’d get bored.
The book ‘Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe about Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free’ by Wednesday Martin discusses why, even in the most loving relationships, your libido seems to just die away. Simply, woman require more variety than men.
Learn your orgasm language, learn his and learn how to mix it up.
If lockdown life is highlighting how much you feel stuck in a routine and you feel like you’re not connected during sex, but are ready to step into the best, sexiest, most confident version of yourself.
Book a call today to find out how I can help.
CD. x